Now I am older, I understand (I think) why I cut off my lower eye-lashes. I was 10/11 years old and I now believe that I was so traumatised and in need of help that is why I did it. Father had vanished and I wasn’t properly told why or where he had gone. For many years I thought he was dead. Mother did not cope well and lashed out at me and my younger sibling, both physically and also there was emotional neglect. I became like a mother to my sibling and my mother treated me more like a friend at times, and not in a good way.